Deep Messaging

Martijn Gorree

24 januari 2015
Martijn Gorree

An addition to the five mindfulness trainings

How are you?

Good, and you?



Rinse and repeat.

Fuck that.

I’ve noticed myself sending messages just for the sake of getting a response. Looking for little nuggets of happiness from people who still care enough to send something, anything, but in the end nothing that actually matters.

It’s a bit like snack food. Nutritionless and consumption for consumptions sake.


The thing is, I’ve got plenty of tools to deal with this. I’ve been a student of Thich Nhat Hanh for a long time and I see this as another good example of something that I can practice. To make it more interesting I decided to have a little fun with it. So I wrote a little addition to the five mindfulness trainings which I’ve been trying to follow for years.

All of the trainings are useful, but the fourth comes closest to what I want to say;

Loving Speech and Deep Listening

Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful speech and the inability to listen to others, I am committed to cultivating loving speech and compassionate listening in order to relieve suffering and to promote reconciliation and peace in myself and among other people, ethnic and religious groups, and nations. Knowing that words can create happiness or suffering, I am committed to speaking truthfully using words that inspire confidence, joy, and hope. When anger is manifesting in me, I am determined not to speak. I will practice mindful breathing and walking in order to recognise and to look deeply into my anger. I know that the roots of anger can be found in my wrong perceptions and lack of understanding of the suffering in myself and in the other person. I will speak and listen in a way that can help myself and the other person to transform suffering and see the way out of difficult situations. I am determined not to spread news that I do not know to be certain and not to utter words that can cause division or discord. I will practice Right Diligence to nourish my capacity for understanding, love, joy, and inclusiveness, and gradually transform anger, violence, and fear that lie deep in my consciousness.

I would like to add this…

Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful use of social media, I am committed to cultivating loving kindness and deep listening in my digital world. I am determined not to lose myself in superficial marketing and clickbait. I am determined not to check facebook or similar types of media every five minutes in search for little nuggets of love. Recognising that I’m looking in all the wrong places and wasting my precious time doing it. I will practice mindful breathing and walking in order to look deeply into my digital presence. When I see that my digital conversation is not constructive, I will delete that shit and move on to better things. I am determined to dedicate my time to the people who nurture me, to put down my phone and breathe or to use it in a way that nurtures me and others.


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